Monday, August 29, 2016

Choosing

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, and start thinking of what could go right. Better yet, think of everything that already is right. Be thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, and past dreams and goals that have turned into reality. Use this positivity to keep going, and fuel an even brighter tomorrow.

Sunday, August 28, 2016

Me before you


Before you, I was strong.
Before you, I knew what I wanted
Before you, I had a heart that was kind

Before you, I laughed
Before you, I wondered about all of things that I could be
Before you, I didn't give up

Before you, I didn't need someone to take care of me
Before you, I believed in the good in others
Before you, I trusted

Before you I knew what love was

And after you...

I am stronger
I still know what I want
My heart is still kind

after you....

My laughter remains
I am exactly who I should be, and I will keep wondering about what else I can be
I haven't given up

after you....

I can still take care of myself
I still believe in the good in people
I still trust

After you, I still know what love is

Monday, January 18, 2016

Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything.
Maybe it's about unbecoming everything that isn't really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.

Believe

You have loved.
You have even experienced great love. 
You have given your heart, and been given it back. Sometimes whole with new appreciation, and other times pieces. 
It is no secret that you have lost a round or two, but do not hang your head. You are the luckiest, even with the weight of the world. 
You have had moments shared, and moments lost. Promises made and promises broken. True words spoken, but taken back, and words not said, and regretted. 
Look at it all not as a failure. Look at it and be grateful.
Some say you have a heart too soon made glad. But you have a heart that is open, welcoming, and forgiving. A heart too soon made glad is not a liability, it is unsheltered. 
Be conscientious, but do not disconnect; underneath there is an innocence we are all guilty of. 

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Real love is a choice

" No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance. No one stays in love by chance, it is by work. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice."

Thursday, June 11, 2015

Isn't it?


“Have enough courage to trust love one more time. And always, one more time.” — Maya Angelou

This is what I want – and have wanted to believe in. Sometimes, it’s harder to do then say. For anyone who has ever loved and lost, and loved and lost again, it can be hard to comprehend that this could ever be possible. But a life without love is incomplete; love is always worth it…isn't it?

I know that there is no all-encompassing formula for relationships, as the diversity between people these days ensures no possible algorithm for success. Relationships change, fail, and face struggles, and sometimes we change into someone we clearly are not in order to fit our partners’ ideals.  It is hard to believe that anyone would ever be worth the risk of going through all of it again. But, a life without love is incomplete; love is always worth it… isn’t it?

I took time after a certain relationship and reflected on and re-evaluated every variable that didn't serve me or that relationship. This made me well aware of the intricacies involved in maintaining a partnership that would survive the minute details of daily life.  Going through that experience taught me what I could and couldn't handle.  I defined new limits which would detail how far I would be willing to go for the one I loved, and the places I knew I couldn't venture.  This is why I believe so strongly in the depths that I know I would go for that person and why. Because a life without love is incomplete; love is always worth it…isn't it?

I thought the second time around I would get to guide myself towards someone who fit within my limits, and that my standards would never waiver.  I know no one in this world will ever be perfect, but I thought that my experiences had defined exactly what I knew would be perfect for me.  I started to draw confidence from all the elements of my personality which some have labelled as flaws, because this next time I would find the person who revelled in every detail of what made me who I am.  That someone would know I would be incomplete without all those integral components, flaws and all.  


Don't look for someone to “complete you” or check off all your boxes; instead, learn how to complete yourself, before looking for someone who can share in that completeness.  Because a life without love is incomplete; love is always worth it. 

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

A Reminder


I hadn't realized it had been so long. Words, phrases and sentences are always going through my mind. It's writing them down that I neglect. Sometimes scared of how permanent it can be. Remembering to remember is hard. Remembering to forget is harder. But one thing I'm always reminded of is - 

"If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together"